Boudoir, while having existed in various forms since the late 1800s, is still a relatively new genre of modern day photography.
The history of boudoir is fascinating and controversial, as women’s bodies and the degree to which they are exposed has been a hot topic amongst many cultures and societies throughout the years (you can read a bit of the history in my other post here).
But today’s post is not about history. It is about self-love, self-respect and discovering your true self.
Let’s start with the basics. What is boudoir photography?
ˈbo͞oˌdwär/ noun – a woman’s bedroom or private room
It is a place of mystery and intrigue; of lace, pearls and lingerie. A place where a woman can be unfiltered, unconfined, raw, wild.
How does this translate to modern day boudoir?
While we may not have a private room like women did back in 1800s we all have a place within ourselves akin to it. A place where we don’t filter ourselves and let loose. A corner of the mind where what others think doesn’t matter. Where feeling beautiful, powerful and strong is as inherent as breathing. And most importantly, this space is where sex and sexy are not dirty, taboo words because we are deeply in touch with our sexuality.
Many of us are cut off from this space of belonging and self-love. Whether it were our parents, our small town or our whole society, we were told that we needed to damper our strength because it was intimidating. We were told that loving ourselves was selfish. That feeling sexy was inappropriate and that dressing sexy invited unwanted attention. We were told that woman’s bodies were for men to admire and enjoy; that dressing ourselves was only to attract men’s attention and advances.
But what about admiring ourselves? What about loving ourselves so deeply that we want to see ourselves as sexy and beautiful, powerful and strong?
A boudoir shoot is a ticket to that sacred space within ourselves. For some it will be a first-time discovery; for others it will be like coming home.
In a boudoir photoshoot you can let loose, conquer fear, explore a new side of you, try out something new. You are free to do what you want and be who you want to be. There is no reproach or shame. The only limits would be self-imposed and you are welcome to smash them too. Because you are a badass woman and it’s about time we show it to you.
(Be ready for fear to kick in – fear is a power barrier to the true power of your own strength and potential. If fear is kicked up that means you are on the right track to paving a permanent and deep connection to your true self.)
So I say – do the boudoir shoot as a gift for yourself first and foremost, not for anyone else (although I am sure your partner would love it too). Get in touch with your inner wild woman. Visit that sacred space that holds your power and confidence. And notice how this newfound confidence starts showing up in various aspects of your life and changing it for the better.