While some women are unfazed by the concept of getting down to their underwear in front of a camera, most would feel anywhere from mildly nervous to downright terrified.
It is perfectly understandable. After all, the photographer is not a girlfriend of ten years or an acquaintance you are at least familiar with. Most of the time they are strangers, only known to you from a friend, a co-worker or a family member who has worked with them before. They may even simply be someone you found on Google.
But the reason why most of us are nervous about boudoir doesn’t even have to do with being photographed by a stranger. It has everything to do with how we feel about our bodies.
When I was planning my own boudoir shoot a few years back I was regularly working out, eating healthy and generally leading a good lifestyle. That did not stop me from feeling scared.
Not only did I not consider myself perfect, I was truly uncomfortable with the idea of someone taking a photograph of what I consider my ‘problem’ areas. The ones I hide with clothing or draw attention away when I sit or stand.
It has everything to do with how we feel about our bodies.
We all have areas like that. You may not love your legs, your arms or your tummy. But this is one of my top reasons why you should experience a boudoir photoshoot for yourself. Because after the shoot…
1. You will see yourself in a new light
When we look at ourselves in the mirror we usually see bits and pieces. We look at our faces, then our arms, then maybe our legs. We put research scientists to shame with how much we examine and analyze every inch of our skin. Most of the time, we are not as nice to our bodies as we should be.
When we trust a professional to take our images, we allow ourselves to be seen as a whole, complete, beautiful human. No focusing on our stomach rolls. Only seeing ourselves as we truly appear to others who don’t notice the things we think are screaming out at strangers we pass on the street.
2. You will feel confident, powerful and sexy
Sexy is not a dirty word. It is a powerful feeling that comes from within and has strength enough to turn your world upside down.
A boudoir photoshoot that has someone posing you, encouraging you and letting you see sneak peeks on the back of the camera where you will undoubtedly exclaim “Oh my god, that’s me!” You will leave the photoshoot feeling like a goddess. Just read what our 30 Day Body Love Challenge stars have written and see for yourself.
3. You will be practicing self-care
Caring for yourself is one of the most important things you can do as a human, and especially as a woman. I say especially because in our culture women have so much pressure to be and do it all that very little time is left for that much needed self-care.
A boudoir shoot exists solely for you. You are the star of the show. It is all about you – how you want to be photographed, what you want to wear, any additional fun things you’d like to throw in there, be it champagne, hors d’oeuvre or a headpiece designed just for you.
4. You will love yourself a little more
Some women have a completely life-altering experiences from seeing themselves through others’ eyes. But most will feel an incremental but very powerful shift in how they experience their bodies and in turn how they experience themselves in the world.
I advocate for the shift because it has a snowball effect – your photoshoot will be first. You then may challenge yourself to start doing things you’ve always wanted to do.
You will begin to truly feel that you are good enough, that you are worthy of all the amazing things in the world.
5. You will worry a little less
The amazing side effect of discovering how utterly exquisite you are is the decrease in worry and anxiety over your perceived ‘flaws’.
You will find more kindness toward yourself and begin the journey of true acceptance. Sounds pretty amazing, doesn’t it?
Ready to experience all this and more for yourself? Get started by designing your own photoshoot experience.
Let’s truly celebrate you.
How has your boudoir photoshoot changed you? What have you begun to notice afterward? What advice would you give to someone who was getting ready for their first shoot? Let me know in the comments – I’d love to hear from you.